we think Cthulhu might be your spirit animal.

aetherclaw:

this should not be used in any way to dismiss victims of any gender in any way but it’s worth taking note of what it suggests about who the actual targets of most violent crimes more often may be and what any beliefs to the contrary may suggest about the actual state of our society and culture if this is true.

luna-nix:

whoufflesoufflegirl:

the-treble:

willowpedia:

crazymolerat36:

ewitsmichelle:

not just followers, everyone.

same

I’m here if any of you need to talk<3

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The best part is, this post actually does something, it offers support, unlike one of those useless “reblog if you care” posts.

Exactly. Which is why I’ll reblog this one.

Understanding a Shame-Based Personality

onlinecounsellingcollege:

There is a difference between blaming and shaming a person. Blaming is being told you did something wrong. Shaming is being told that there’s something wrong with you, and you’re worthless, bad, inferior or inadequate. Examples of shaming statements include:

· “You were a mistake; I wish I’d never had you”

· “You’re useless; you’ll never amount to anything.”

· “You could never do what he/she does”

· “You’ve ruined my life; you ruin everything for everyone”

Adults shamed in childhood have the following traits:

1. They are afraid to share their true thoughts and feelings with others.

2. They are terrified of intimacy and put up walls in relationships. They also fear commitment as they expect to be rejected.

3. They are often extremely shy, easily embarrassed, and are terrified of being shamed or humiliated. They tend to suffer from debilitating false guilt.

4. They struggle with feelings of worthlessness and believe they are inferior to others. They believe that is something they can never change as worthlessness is at the core of who they are.

5. They often feel ugly and flawed, even when they’re beautiful – and everyone tells them that.

6. They may be narcissistic and act as if they have it all together; alternatively, they may be completely selfless, almost to the point of being a doormat.

7. They are often very defensive and find it hard to bear the slightest criticism. They feel as if they are being constantly watched and judged.

8.  They have a pervasive sense of loneliness and always feel like outsiders (even when others genuinely like and love them).

9. They feel controlled – as if they always have to do want others want and say – and this blocks spontaneity.

10. They are perfectionists and usually suffer from performance anxiety. This may also cause them to be procrastinators.

11. They tend to block their feelings through compulsive behaviors like eating disorders, retail therapy or substance-abuse.

12. They find it hard to establish and enforce healthy boundaries with others.  

Understanding a Shame-Based Personality

onlinecounsellingcollege:

There is a difference between blaming and shaming a person. Blaming is being told you did something wrong. Shaming is being told that there’s something wrong with you, and you’re worthless, bad, inferior or inadequate. Examples of shaming statements include:

· “You were a mistake; I wish I’d never had you”

· “You’re useless; you’ll never amount to anything.”

· “You could never do what he/she does”

· “You’ve ruined my life; you ruin everything for everyone”

Adults shamed in childhood have the following traits:

1. They are afraid to share their true thoughts and feelings with others.

2. They are terrified of intimacy and put up walls in relationships. They also fear commitment as they expect to be rejected.

3. They are often extremely shy, easily embarrassed, and are terrified of being shamed or humiliated. They tend to suffer from debilitating false guilt.

4. They struggle with feelings of worthlessness and believe they are inferior to others. They believe that is something they can never change as worthlessness is at the core of who they are.

5. They often feel ugly and flawed, even when they’re beautiful – and everyone tells them that.

6. They may be narcissistic and act as if they have it all together; alternatively, they may be completely selfless, almost to the point of being a doormat.

7. They are often very defensive and find it hard to bear the slightest criticism. They feel as if they are being constantly watched and judged.

8.  They have a pervasive sense of loneliness and always feel like outsiders (even when others genuinely like and love them).

9. They feel controlled – as if they always have to do want others want and say – and this blocks spontaneity.

10. They are perfectionists and usually suffer from performance anxiety. This may also cause them to be procrastinators.

11. They tend to block their feelings through compulsive behaviors like eating disorders, retail therapy or substance-abuse.

12. They find it hard to establish and enforce healthy boundaries with others.  

psych-quotes:

When you start a new relationship, you always want it to work in a perfect way and you do anything and everything towards the betterment of it.  But in some circumstances you don’t even realize how weak it has become until it falls apart completely.  With the help of these few suggestions you can get an idea of when it is the right time to turn away:

1.       You ignore the red flags. Even from the beginning you ignore the red flags that clearly indicate that the person you are going out with is not the right one for you. But you keep on going to fulfill your need of love.

2.       Every channel of communication fails. If you have tried everything that could save your relationship by keeping open all lines of communication, you tried talking to them but still the situation has further dropped down to a negative level, it means you need to get away as soon as you can. There is nothing left for you in it any more.

3.       You feel mistreated.  Everyone deserves to be happy when they are with someone and you deserve it as well.  If you feel mistreated most of the time because your partner ignores you or doesn’t care for you the way you do for them, you should stop trying anymore and leave them for good.

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